We all face challenges and times when life doesn’t make any sense at all. When we see everything else but the big picture of what we’re going through. When there’s no iota of connection between where you are and where you’re heading or plan to be. When you feel like the odd person in the whole wide world; in the midst of family members, colleagues, schoolmates, friends, associates and so on. Like me, I’m sure at some point you’ve asked the question ‘Why me?’ maybe due to a divorce, a failed relationship, news of a terminal disease, a job layoff or even the demise of a loved one. Whatever the case, such times make one feel life’s really unfair, cruel and partial.
“Always remember that a bend in the road is not the end of the road!”
Someone once said, “Life is like a roller coaster, it goes up and down.” Ironically, the down moments are when you really discover your true self – who you really are and what you’re capable of accomplishing. Personally, the larger part of my defining moments have been times of great trials and challenges. For instance, the idea for this blog was conceived at a time in my life when it looked like I was down and out.
So, what do you do when life makes no sense?
- BE STRONG
To be strong, you’ve got to find reasons that will make you strong. Reasons that will make you hang in there when times go rough, tough and challenging. This is essential because when people disappoint you, betray you, lie to you or even when you want to throw in the towel yourself, the reasons you have will keep you going no matter what. Such reasons could be to make your parents proud of you, to make your children have a better life than what you have or to prove people wrong of their judgement of you.
- BE POSITIVE
When life throws you a curveball, you’d have to make a conscious, deliberate and determined effort to be positive. When things go wrong or are not working as they should, you’ve got to be careful not to become negative in your actions and the words of your mouth. Negativity breeds hopelessness and hopelessness is a next of kin to failure! Just like the popular saying “When life throws you lemons, make lemonades.”
- BE PREPARED
It may sound like the Boys Scout’s motto, but then when you’re faced with the real dramas of life, preparation becomes a necessity. It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared. So, convert your down time to preparation time; rebirth, rebrand, reform or reinvent yourself. When life catches you on the blind side, it’s only a call to be prepared for what lies ahead of you.
In conclusion, storms don’t always last forever. If it currently looks like you’re battered, beaten, off-track, derailed, deviated or cornered, just be reassured that your current situation is prepping you for something awesome, amazing and ginormous. It could be 5 years, 10 years or even 20 years down the line before you can fully understand the reason(s) behind what you’re passing through right now. When that time comes, I strongly believe that you’ll be able to connect the dots and see the beautiful future you’ve always envisioned.
Want to share lessons you’ve learned in your trying times? Bring it on in the comments
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