An American Indian tells about a brave who found an Eagle’s egg and put it into the nest of a prairie chicken. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life the changeling eagle, thinking he was a prairie chicken, did what the prairie chickens did.
He scratched in the dirt for seeds and insects to eat. He clucked and cackled. And he flew in a brief thrashing of wings and flurry of feathers no more than a few feet off the ground. After all, that’s how prairie chickens are supposed to fly.
“Show Me Your Friends And I Will Tell You Who You Are.”
Years passed. And the changeling eagle grew very old. One day, he saw a magnificent bird far above him in the cloudless sky. Hanging with graceful majesty on the powerful wind currents, it soared with scarcely a beat of its strong golden wings.
“What a beautiful bird!” Said the changeling eagle to his neighbour, “what is it?” “That’s an eagle – the chief of the birds.” The neighbour clucked. “But don’t give it a second thought. You could never be like him.” So the changeling eagle never gave it another thought, and it died a prairie chicken.
What a tragedy! Built to soar into the heavens, but influenced to stay earthbound, that eagle pecked at stray seeds and chased insects. Though designed to be among the most awesome of all fowls, it instead believed a neighbour’s counsel, as a result, it never lived its true potentials.
That’s exactly what happens when we run with the wrong crowd. When we allow what people think or say about us to get in the way of our ability to dream and live the best possible life. We end up putting a lid on our potentials, talents and capabilities. And consequently, settle for a mundane lifestyle.
At this point, I’d like you to pause for a moment and think about your association. Who are your friends? Who do you mingle with? Who are those influencing your thoughts, actions and way of life? You see, this is quite important because the people you ally with will either make or mar your future. “Show me your friends,” they say “and I will tell you who you are.”
Your life is a true reflection of who you surround yourself with. Some people call it a network, association or synergy; others call it a partnership, company or relationship. But whatever the terminology you use, one thing ought to be clear, which is this: Surround yourself with people who will ignite your passion and dream, challenge your future and keep you on your toes in the business of attaining your goals and realising your dreams in life. You need to synergize and network with people of like minds, who are purpose-driven in their pursuits in life. Those who can help you to see the possibility of becoming who you want to be and what you want to accomplish in life.
In conclusion, I must admit here, that our associations will either have positive or negative impacts on our lives. With this post, my intention is to highlight the negative impacts of association (and I hope I did exactly that). I shall address the positive power of association in a different post, kindly watch out for this.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear your opinion on the impacts of association on our lives and what your experience has been, positive or negative?
Picture Credit: Eagle (Pinterest), Others (Google)