In this present time of social media razzmatazz, the concept of friendship has completely been redefined. The world is getting increasingly connected yet friends are getting increasingly disconnected. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn and a host of others have made it very easy to recruit friends with the power of a button, yet unfriend them using the same.
But hey! The question remains, ‘Are we truly friends in the real sense of the word?’ Given that the notion of friend in a digital era like ours is used largely in a very loose manner. Well, that’s a subject for another day as my focus on this post is to help you see the correlation between friendship and success.
Show me your friend and I’ll tell you who you are is a perfect summary to this piece. The company you keep has a whole lot to say about who you are and where you’re heading in life. The friendship you commit to has the capacity to propel you in the direction of success or reduce you to a total failure in life. For a long time, I wondered why this is so but now I simply concluded on this premise: That your association has a way of rubbing off on you. Whether it be your personality, character, mentality, integrity or beliefs. It always has the potent ability to interact, interfere and define these qualities in you.
“Whoever has a friend, has a treasure.” – Unknown
Pause for a moment and do a bit of reflection on your friendships. And If I may ask you, who are your friends? What group of people do you spend the greater part of your time with? What value are they adding to your life? Are you happy with the outcome of your relationship with them? Is their impact on your life sharpening your views or are they making you dull and blunt, weird and wild, cold and lukewarm? Jim Rohn puts it this way ‘You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
In 2013, a research at the University of California, San Diego found out that people seem more attractive in a group than in isolation. This discovery was attributed to what is called the ‘cheerleader effect’. It was concluded that the more attractive people in a group serve to ‘raise the average’ which makes the average faces to appear more attractive. In other words, the quality of the life you live and the impact you make is greatly influenced by the quality of your circle of friends. Hanging out with credible and inspiring folks will earn you credibility of some sort while leaving you driven and inspired.
“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” – Henry Ford
Today, some students are out there in the cockpit of bad grades simply because they hung out with the wrong crowds. Some are doing drugs because of the negative influence of friendship on their lives. Others are in serious debts as a result of peer pressure to live above their means. Some wonderful marriages are broken and family relationships soiled all because of the impacts of unhealthy friendship.
Whatever the case, don’t choose your friends based on where you are but based on where you’re going or heading in life. According to a research, in a lifetime, you go through approximately good 396 friends but only around 1 in 12 friendships last. This simply means that if we become mindful, careful and thoughtful of the friendships, associations or the company we interact, hang out and relate with, then we will be increasing our chances of good, lasting and meaningful friendships. So, like I said earlier, choose your friends wisely!
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