Nothing cripples like the blow of an unexpected, unforeseen or unanticipated setback. It literally breaks down the will and courage to succeed while smashing in pieces determination and self-confidence. It forces people to isolate situations in their lives, labeling them as failure and as a result lose sight of a bigger picture. Here are 3 things you need to know when dealing with failure and disappointments;
#1. Failure is not final
Failure is not a permanent marker and should not be seen as a stigma or an irreversible thing. It’s only a process that helps you begin again, this time, more intelligently. It’s the price you pay for success because it shakes the soul and brings out its glory.
As a student, seeing classmates repeat classes and retake courses instilled in me some kind of dread for failure. It kept me on my toes and gave me the discipline to study hard. That’s what failure does, it brings out the best in us because sometimes it takes adversity to create success.
“It doesn’t matter how much milk you spill as long as you don’t lose your cow.”
The reality is that we all have once failed at something, at some time and at some place, whether on a personal or corporate ground. This realisation puts the mind to rest and enable us to see victory in defeat, success in failure, and greatness in little beginnings.
As a matter of fact, the first time you tried to walk as a toddler, you fell down. The first time you tried to talk, you could hardly make a sound. Even the first time you dressed yourself, you may have looked like a clown. But guess what? In all of these scenarios, you didn’t give up. So why give up now? Why call it a quit now? Why are you finding it hard to pick yourself up and move on with life?
Failure only becomes true failure when we accept defeat and quit trying.
#2. Failure is a resource
How do you convince a person whose house have just been repossessed by the bank, who have just been fired from his job, who have just gone through a divorce, who have just failed an exam or who have just lost a loved one in a ghastly motor accident that such a situation is a resource? Well, it’s pretty difficult to even mention that but the reality is that such disappointing situations have the potential to birth something awesome.
I’ve heard stories of people whose predicaments have led to their discovery of a more beautiful and purposeful life. Some people have been fired from their job who went on to build thriving businesses. Some others have gone ahead to run huge charity causes from the moment they lost a loved one. So, it all boils down to the word perspective – that is your viewpoint, attitude and reaction towards failure. When you see failure as a resource, it makes your recovery quicker and your bounce-back faster.
“Failure is good, it’s fertilizer.” – Rick Pitino
An NBA Coach Rick Pitino puts it very bluntly “Failure is good, it’s fertilizer! Everything I’ve learned about coaching, I’ve learned from making mistakes.”
#3. Failure is a lesson to learn from
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. So, we always have a choice whether or not to learn from every incidence of failure and that can perfectly be demonstrated by how we react or respond to it. Because the lessons we learn from such times usually will drive and propel us in the direction of success.
“There are no failures – only lessons”
According to the old saying in Texas “It doesn’t matter how much milk you spill as long as you don’t lose your cow.” This translates to mean that there’s a need to always keep the big picture in view. Whatever life throws at you, see it in the big picture.
When life hands you lemons, they say you make lemonades. Learn the lessons and move on. When setbacks, disappointments, mistakes or failure happen to you, that is the time to be unstoppable. To get up, re-appraise and get going!
In conclusion, you don’t need to worry about failure, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.
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