What do you do when you find yourself at the crossroads of life? Where do you go and who do you run to? This post by Elsie Bowen-Dodoo dissects the very heart of the subject, Indecision. Elsie is the first guest-blogger on soempowering.com
The saying, “Too many cooks spoil the broth” is one we must pay heed to very carefully. Who do you live for? Your family, your friends, yourself? At times, you’re in a position of second guessing yourself and that really becomes an open passageway for people to manipulate you.
It is important to know within the depths of your soul what works for you. Once you allow indecision to breed in your home, you become a tenant, no longer the home owner. Too many people deciding how your life should be makes it harder for you to progress to greater heights.
So, what can you do in times of confusion, uncertainty and distress?
It’s okay to ask for advice, but in the end, you have the final say. The first person you should seek advice from is your Father in Heaven. Talking to God first off, bestows on you a sense of peace. When you have peace, you can think clearly. Once you have sought the Lord for His able counsel, you can ask around for advice from just about anyone. It’s good because you get to visualise different scenarios and perspectives which you of course can’t think of all on your own.
The two common mistakes people make when taking advice are: acting impulsively based on the first things they hear, and taking advice from too many people which ends up triggering an avalanche of disaster. People tend to do more of listening without reasoning, and if it sounds good to the ear, then it’s a green light. If this same decision is hurting someone or something, then they find themselves taking another decision to counter the failure of the first. Bad. Very bad! Again, I ask who are you living for? Know your heart, know yourself. How?
Here are three things that could help you get to know yourself better:
#1. Spend time with your solitude.
Meditate, journal and read. Reading is awesome! It broadens your scope of thinking and informs you, otherwise you’d only heed to what is right within your four walls. Journaling is a good way to keep track of your thought process. Meditation is just you at a tea party with yourself. Question your motives and actions.
#2. Have an open mind.
It is indeed hard to change the mind of someone which has already been made up. But the first step to having options is having an open mind. Something that works for you today may not live up to expectations tomorrow.
#3. Lastly explore your vulnerability.
We bottle up vulnerability for certain fears which are sometimes valid. But bad experiences are the best teachers. If we are too scared to experience, we would just be static. Of course, this doesn’t mean naivety should come into play, but, rather we must take that bold step, learning at the same time how to safeguard ourselves.
To conclude, be content with whatever decision you take and live to honor it. I started with a saying, I end with this quote from Maimonides ~ “The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision.”