I once had an experience that left me emotionally bitter and hurt for a considerable period of time. Despite being a Christian, I found it difficult to let go of a situation that long should have been gone and forgotten. Rather, the resentment within me grew, day after day.
It happened that one faithful morning, I got a call from the wife of a close relative whose husband was locked behind bars in a Police cell for an offence I learnt he didn’t commit. Compassionately moved, I opted to stand as a surety for him but as it later turned out, he absconded without any trace of his whereabouts.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi
This fellow left me apprehensive of being humiliated and locked up behind bars, all at the mercy of the Police. So, I constantly felt like a volcano erupting with molten magma every time his thoughts crossed my mind.
And for me, forgiveness was a no-go area at all!
Long story short, the turning point came when I became tired of carrying negative feelings within me. So, I decided to forgive – to let go and let God. I consciously prayed and asked God to help me overcome the negative thoughts and feelings that I harbored in my heart for someone who probably was enjoying his life without any sense that he wronged me. To err they say, is human but to forgive is divine.
“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free and then realise that prisoner was you.” – unknown
This is not to undermine the circumstance surrounding your own hurt, bitterness or unforgiveness. As I well understand that the degree of hurt and pain varies from person to person. The magnitude of what you’ve been through may not be as light as what I’ve just described above. But this is to say to someone out there finding it hard to let go…It’s possible to let go!
Some people’s innocence was stolen from them in their childhood by those they trusted the most. Some were raped, lied against, left heart-broken, betrayed, taken advantage of in very vulnerable situations.
The list is endless.
My counsel to you is simple:
Let go and let God! Trust God to help you forgive those who have offended you. Trust Him to heal your broken heart of everything that’s made it to rip apart so you don’t live the rest of your life a prisoner of your past. The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
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